I don't generally do the April Fool's thing - it takes too much thought and effort to come up with something clever. And I don't usually plan too far in advance. Which is why I also would not be good at the whole revenge thing...
Fact - I have 8 open tabs - 6 are Match.com and 2 are POF. One is a woman I have written before so I won't say more about her than that. So, seven open tabs...
First letter - match.com 38 year old - I live within her circle of passion, er, desire, er distance - but am too old - so I fear this is G&G - still, worth a shot, right?
Second letter - POF 38 year old who lives in NY State - very short profile - succinct even. But because of the distance - and probably age - I doubt I will hear back. Who am I kidding? There is no way in hell. I don't think anyone has written back in months! Ok, that is a slight exaggeration, but not far off the mark...
Third Letter - 44 year old POF woman not too far away - again, a very brief profile - letting her pics do the heavy lifting - dropped her a decent note.
Fourth letter - 49 year old Match.com woman - not a long distance away - I am even within her age limit! Wow! She looked at my profile and didn't write - which is probably a bad sign - but I believe in taking the bull by the born, damning the torpedoes and all that crap. Ok, I don't really, but I thought I would write her on the off chance that she is one.four in a thousand...
Fifth letter - 42 year old who match woman - I don't live in her circle of preference - but I do match her age. Sadly she is looking for a "MAN" which I take to mean a GQ model with lots of money. I am only a man - a moderately handsome guy who gets by. And I don't eat car parts and poop gold. She says she wants Funny - I have said this elsewhere - I call bullshit. Most women say this and then just about anything else trumps that desire. How do you know someone is funny if you don't communicate with them? I can be funny - even when writing - if given the opportunity. Humor, for me, needs to be tailored to the audience. Humor is not generic - generally...
Closed the next tab - getting towards profile burnout for the morning...
Sixth letter - 47 year old woman match woman - within her distance and age range (for another week)(age that is) - though she likes boating and skiing - two activities in which I rarely participate - the last time I went skiing was in high school - and it was cross country - and I don't really like the water - why - you may ask, am I writing. Who the heck knows at this point? Flinging spaghetti at the fridge and seeing if it sticks, I guess...I made a funny, I think - though it might be too obscure for her - she said she wanted someone driven - I said I didn't have a chauffeur. Tee hee?
Seventh letter - a 45 year old match - older than the 50 she is looking for - her profile sounded a little bitter and jaded - but I really liked her handle and was curious what she meant by it. Will I hear back? Hahahahaha. Ha.
And that's all for now - tabs all closed. Time for a nap.
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Wednesday, April 2, 2014
Tuesday, April 1, 2014
March 31
I have a bunch of open tabs - 9 it looks like - now, I think I am just making a point. That most women either don't really want a relationship or at least don't want a relationship with me. Which, mathematically makes sense, of course. Still, it is frustrating...
First letter was to a woman who lives in Toronto - 40 years old - on ok Cupid - 65% Match and 15% enemy - so not really a great match - she just appealed - but I am sure it was jut G&G for me.
Second letter to an empty profile with a picture - G&G.
Maybe I should make it a contest - see who can guess how many messages I can write before I get a positive response. By positive response, I mean something that is intended to further communication and the process of getting to know another person. Fear not, I wouldn't throw the competition by writing a lot of bad emails. G&Gs for sure, as I just feel the need to write and to be doing something. I think I might be close to 30 now...
And OK Cupid tabs are responsible for eating my computer's memory. Poo on them. Lesson mostly learned - if I see an OKC person, write them and close the tab immediately
First letter was to a woman who lives in Toronto - 40 years old - on ok Cupid - 65% Match and 15% enemy - so not really a great match - she just appealed - but I am sure it was jut G&G for me.
Second letter to an empty profile with a picture - G&G.
Maybe I should make it a contest - see who can guess how many messages I can write before I get a positive response. By positive response, I mean something that is intended to further communication and the process of getting to know another person. Fear not, I wouldn't throw the competition by writing a lot of bad emails. G&Gs for sure, as I just feel the need to write and to be doing something. I think I might be close to 30 now...
And OK Cupid tabs are responsible for eating my computer's memory. Poo on them. Lesson mostly learned - if I see an OKC person, write them and close the tab immediately
Friday, March 28, 2014
March 27
I have posted a take on a new profile text. Maybe it is too dry? So far, no one has commented on it. Poop.
First note - 40 year old Match woman - I don't think we are a match - so G&G.
Second Note - 44 year old Match woman - who I think is great - teeny p-crush - sadly she wants someone who lives 10 miles away. Sigh. Doubt I will hear anything positive back (reverse magic works 1 in 10,000 times!).
Third note - 40 year old match woman - only wants someone up to fifty. Sigh. A decent, not great note.
First note - 40 year old Match woman - I don't think we are a match - so G&G.
Second Note - 44 year old Match woman - who I think is great - teeny p-crush - sadly she wants someone who lives 10 miles away. Sigh. Doubt I will hear anything positive back (reverse magic works 1 in 10,000 times!).
Third note - 40 year old match woman - only wants someone up to fifty. Sigh. A decent, not great note.
Sunday, March 16, 2014
March 15
I am going to see how many notes/tabs I can handle in an hour. It is 9 now, by ten, how many? Any guesses?
First note - POF - 42 year old just on the edge of her distance limit - I think this is G&G because she looks very, very conservative - and she rides motorcycles - which in and of itself isn't a bad thing - but it isn't something I do, so...
Second note - POF - 43 not too far - short profile - which gives me not a lot to work with - but I managed a decent note. When there isn't much there, I make use of the handle (the user name) if I can to make the note more interesting. This one ranked about a six on the Augustus note scale.
I was thinking of writing one woman who seemed interesting, until I looked at some of the pictures she had posted - she was looking for the Marlboro man sort - not me by a good measure! So, closed that tab...
Third note - Match - 50 year old - honestly, not all that excited about this note, but she "liked" my profile and that deserves a note, don't you think? And who knows, right? At least that is my philosophy when I write and "like" others. So, turn about is fair play. That is so funny! The woman must have liked one of my pictures or something and didn't read my profile. And then she sent a "no thanks" canned message in response to my nice note. Wow! And Phew!
I commented on a picture of a woman on Match to whom I had sent a message (and surprisingly didn't hear back...) a while ago - the picture was obviously from some St. Patrick's Day event - so I told her about the Town Pants.
Fourth Note - POF - 47 year old woman who put a list of likes and dislikes as her profile - interesting choice - nothing at all about who she was looking for - unless it is someone whose microwave is sparkling clean is an indication of something...
Fifth note - POF - this one is definitely a G&G - I am guessing it is a straight up fake profile - it says she is 43 and then in the body of the message she says she is 34 - her pictures all look as if they were done professionally - like a model - and she is model pretty. Her profile seems a little too pat. She misused "your" (should have been you're). I don't know - and of course, I do not expect an answer...Not the best note - but I am sure it is better than most of the blathering drooling messages the profile is undoubtedly getting...
Closing a tab is not like not responding to an email. There was an initial attraction but upon some contemplation, I decided that I didn't want to write her, for whatever reason. In this particular case, I just got the feeling that I wasn't her type - which doesn't always stop me from writing - but this time it did.
One question I sometimes ask is "Where would you most like to travel?" I think, when it gets answers - which is, obviously, rarely - shows a good insight into the person. If they say Cancun or an island or something - we probably aren't a good match. I will travel to those places, just not top of my list. If they say someplace European, that says one thing. Asian, another. African, a third. South American - well, that's where I want to visit, so, yay!
Sixth note - POF - 46 - Not a long ways away - she says she has crazy hair - I like crazy hair - good length, informative profile. I do worry a bit about people who are looking for "generous" significant others...
Seventh Note - POF - 35 living too far away - definitely G&G. - Well, that solves that - I didn't fit her hidden criteria - probably too old and too far away. Whatever. It was a nice note, too...
Seventh Note - POF - 48 living too far away - I am writing her because she looks like a woman who an acquaintance of mine knows. G&G for sure...
I wrote to a woman who has looked at my profile at least twice. She said she wanted someone who would make her smile - and I had to have done that or she wouldn't have looked at my profile. But she didn't write - so making her smile wasn't enough to warrant a message. Next.
And that's all I wrote - I closed six tabs - three match and three POF - just because I didn't feel like writing them at this time. If they pop back into my radar, maybe I will. But seven in 40 minutes will have to suffice.
I think I would rather find a good pen pal than find people who were icky when I actually met them.
Oops, checked my mail and realized that someone else had also liked my picture - so I sent them a note - does that count as a message to a new person? Kinda, sorta, I guess.
First note - POF - 42 year old just on the edge of her distance limit - I think this is G&G because she looks very, very conservative - and she rides motorcycles - which in and of itself isn't a bad thing - but it isn't something I do, so...
Second note - POF - 43 not too far - short profile - which gives me not a lot to work with - but I managed a decent note. When there isn't much there, I make use of the handle (the user name) if I can to make the note more interesting. This one ranked about a six on the Augustus note scale.
I was thinking of writing one woman who seemed interesting, until I looked at some of the pictures she had posted - she was looking for the Marlboro man sort - not me by a good measure! So, closed that tab...
Third note - Match - 50 year old - honestly, not all that excited about this note, but she "liked" my profile and that deserves a note, don't you think? And who knows, right? At least that is my philosophy when I write and "like" others. So, turn about is fair play. That is so funny! The woman must have liked one of my pictures or something and didn't read my profile. And then she sent a "no thanks" canned message in response to my nice note. Wow! And Phew!
I commented on a picture of a woman on Match to whom I had sent a message (and surprisingly didn't hear back...) a while ago - the picture was obviously from some St. Patrick's Day event - so I told her about the Town Pants.
Fourth Note - POF - 47 year old woman who put a list of likes and dislikes as her profile - interesting choice - nothing at all about who she was looking for - unless it is someone whose microwave is sparkling clean is an indication of something...
Fifth note - POF - this one is definitely a G&G - I am guessing it is a straight up fake profile - it says she is 43 and then in the body of the message she says she is 34 - her pictures all look as if they were done professionally - like a model - and she is model pretty. Her profile seems a little too pat. She misused "your" (should have been you're). I don't know - and of course, I do not expect an answer...Not the best note - but I am sure it is better than most of the blathering drooling messages the profile is undoubtedly getting...
Closing a tab is not like not responding to an email. There was an initial attraction but upon some contemplation, I decided that I didn't want to write her, for whatever reason. In this particular case, I just got the feeling that I wasn't her type - which doesn't always stop me from writing - but this time it did.
One question I sometimes ask is "Where would you most like to travel?" I think, when it gets answers - which is, obviously, rarely - shows a good insight into the person. If they say Cancun or an island or something - we probably aren't a good match. I will travel to those places, just not top of my list. If they say someplace European, that says one thing. Asian, another. African, a third. South American - well, that's where I want to visit, so, yay!
Sixth note - POF - 46 - Not a long ways away - she says she has crazy hair - I like crazy hair - good length, informative profile. I do worry a bit about people who are looking for "generous" significant others...
Seventh Note - POF - 48 living too far away - I am writing her because she looks like a woman who an acquaintance of mine knows. G&G for sure...
I wrote to a woman who has looked at my profile at least twice. She said she wanted someone who would make her smile - and I had to have done that or she wouldn't have looked at my profile. But she didn't write - so making her smile wasn't enough to warrant a message. Next.
And that's all I wrote - I closed six tabs - three match and three POF - just because I didn't feel like writing them at this time. If they pop back into my radar, maybe I will. But seven in 40 minutes will have to suffice.
I think I would rather find a good pen pal than find people who were icky when I actually met them.
Oops, checked my mail and realized that someone else had also liked my picture - so I sent them a note - does that count as a message to a new person? Kinda, sorta, I guess.
Saturday, March 15, 2014
March 14
Lots of open tabs again. Sigh. I must admit to some reluctance to keep bashing my head against this wall. But I keep thinking how nice it will be when I can eventually stop. And, honestly, it gives me something to do. Yes, taking care of my mom and working at the Smith both take up time, and daily, weekly, and monthly home and personal maintenance take up time. As do other funner activities that I do sometimes (juggle, play piano, play xBox, read, write (oh, look, I'm writing now!) use minutes in a day. And they are all valid uses of my time. I would, though, I think and believe, like to be in a real, happy, healthy long term relationship. And unless I happen into a woman at The Smith - or a traveling sales person (hmm, would I really have lots in common with someone who was a traveling sales person) knocks on the door, I believe that expanding my surface area by continuing to send out message after message, reaching out to all and sundry, just might make me feel like I am making a true effort in finding a life partner.
I posed a question on my status line on FB about being in a relationship with someone who dictated who your friends could be. I limited it to FB, but that sort of behavior has been happening throughout time. I, of course, am of the opinion that if someone told me that I couldn't be friends with so and so or else, then I might very well choose not to be in the relationship. Love, which we hope is the basis of a relationship, is, to me, about acceptance - which also encompasses respect and trust. I accept my love, my partner, as they are - which means I respect their choices and trust that they are doing the best they can for themselves. And if that includes being friends with someone that I think is not in their best interest, I might mention my belief to them, but not "forbid" them to have anything to do with that person. Once I have shared my thoughts, I can then re-think our own relationship. Maybe the person I am in a relationship isn't the best person for me to be with.
First note - G&G since our match percentages are messed up (OK Cupid - 45 - not far sort of) 50% Match 37% Friend 32% Enemy - eek actually... All she had for most of her answers was "sex sleep eat drink dream" Sigh.
Second Note - Probably also G&G because she lives in Canada - but nothing ventured... - 40 and 74% Match 45% Friend 7% Enemy - Short and sweet and clear profile! Going for a slightly humorous note. Wish me luck! - She said distance was an issue. Lame. Whatever. I wrote her a note I always mean to ask - especially when I have written a decent note - which I did in her case - which is "Does she receive notes that are twice as good from people half the distance away?" I sincerely doubt it...She responded that she was new and that mine was the best so far! Maybe mine was the only one. Who knows? Still, it is somewhat reassuring to hear that I give good notes!
Next note - I don't remember if this is a first note or not. I remember this woman and am not sure if I put fingers to keys for her before - I think I did - but I can't recall. Oh well. Damn match for not keeping track of all messaging history! Glarp even.
Third Note - Match 45 - probably G&G because I get a conservative vibe from her - and because she only wants someone 50. Age is just a number is a mantra I often here...Anyway, she lives almost next door in a relative sort of way. My note was nice, but not great.
Fourth Note - Match 37 - not far - but the age is wrong - and again I get the conservative vibe. So I sent a G&G note.
I posed a question on my status line on FB about being in a relationship with someone who dictated who your friends could be. I limited it to FB, but that sort of behavior has been happening throughout time. I, of course, am of the opinion that if someone told me that I couldn't be friends with so and so or else, then I might very well choose not to be in the relationship. Love, which we hope is the basis of a relationship, is, to me, about acceptance - which also encompasses respect and trust. I accept my love, my partner, as they are - which means I respect their choices and trust that they are doing the best they can for themselves. And if that includes being friends with someone that I think is not in their best interest, I might mention my belief to them, but not "forbid" them to have anything to do with that person. Once I have shared my thoughts, I can then re-think our own relationship. Maybe the person I am in a relationship isn't the best person for me to be with.
First note - G&G since our match percentages are messed up (OK Cupid - 45 - not far sort of) 50% Match 37% Friend 32% Enemy - eek actually... All she had for most of her answers was "sex sleep eat drink dream" Sigh.
Second Note - Probably also G&G because she lives in Canada - but nothing ventured... - 40 and 74% Match 45% Friend 7% Enemy - Short and sweet and clear profile! Going for a slightly humorous note. Wish me luck! - She said distance was an issue. Lame. Whatever. I wrote her a note I always mean to ask - especially when I have written a decent note - which I did in her case - which is "Does she receive notes that are twice as good from people half the distance away?" I sincerely doubt it...She responded that she was new and that mine was the best so far! Maybe mine was the only one. Who knows? Still, it is somewhat reassuring to hear that I give good notes!
Next note - I don't remember if this is a first note or not. I remember this woman and am not sure if I put fingers to keys for her before - I think I did - but I can't recall. Oh well. Damn match for not keeping track of all messaging history! Glarp even.
Third Note - Match 45 - probably G&G because I get a conservative vibe from her - and because she only wants someone 50. Age is just a number is a mantra I often here...Anyway, she lives almost next door in a relative sort of way. My note was nice, but not great.
Fourth Note - Match 37 - not far - but the age is wrong - and again I get the conservative vibe. So I sent a G&G note.
Tuesday, March 4, 2014
March 3
Wow, really? A racist? I can't imagine how she got that impression. She probably didn't - it is probably her fears that pushed that idea into her brain. I ask just about everyone where they are from. It is an easy question to ask and leads to great insights into a person's sense of self (when it is answered - which, as we know, is seldom because most people do not respond to my emails). It occurs to me, maybe most people don't respond to most emails, so I probably shouldn't feel singled out for being not responded to.
Note 1 - Match woman who is 54 and lives within the circle of reasonableness - she says all she is looking for is someone who can put a smile on her face and make her laugh on her worst day. Ha.
Note 2- Match woman who is 54 and is "interested" in me. No picture, which is always a bit of a concern - but what the heck - who knows, right?
Note 3 - OK Cupid is working again - yay? Wrote a women who is 37 and lives an easy distance away. Good percentages - 90% Match 78% Friend 9% Enemy - I get the feeling I may have written her before and she didn't respond then. I don't know. Sigh.
Am I alone (well, yes, obviously, but...) in this opinion - what we think we look like and what we look like to others are not necessarily (and probably infrequently) the same thing. This is a tangential thought, actually, to my current (though I have had it before but probably haven't put it down in this blog) thought - that sometimes I get the feeling when looking through someone's pictures - if they have posted any and more than one - that a certain picture is actually most representative of how that person would look to me in "real" life. That the others are good representations of her sometimes, but that one in particular is most what she really looks like every day.
Note 4 - p-crush alert! Of course, I am not at all who she is looking for - too old (and smelly) and too far away - but still...84% Match 83% Friend 8% Enemy - not bad percentages - lucid and interesting - well traveled, engaged in the world. G&G obviously...Yes, I gushed a little. Sigh.
Note 1 - Match woman who is 54 and lives within the circle of reasonableness - she says all she is looking for is someone who can put a smile on her face and make her laugh on her worst day. Ha.
Note 2- Match woman who is 54 and is "interested" in me. No picture, which is always a bit of a concern - but what the heck - who knows, right?
Note 3 - OK Cupid is working again - yay? Wrote a women who is 37 and lives an easy distance away. Good percentages - 90% Match 78% Friend 9% Enemy - I get the feeling I may have written her before and she didn't respond then. I don't know. Sigh.
Am I alone (well, yes, obviously, but...) in this opinion - what we think we look like and what we look like to others are not necessarily (and probably infrequently) the same thing. This is a tangential thought, actually, to my current (though I have had it before but probably haven't put it down in this blog) thought - that sometimes I get the feeling when looking through someone's pictures - if they have posted any and more than one - that a certain picture is actually most representative of how that person would look to me in "real" life. That the others are good representations of her sometimes, but that one in particular is most what she really looks like every day.
Note 4 - p-crush alert! Of course, I am not at all who she is looking for - too old (and smelly) and too far away - but still...84% Match 83% Friend 8% Enemy - not bad percentages - lucid and interesting - well traveled, engaged in the world. G&G obviously...Yes, I gushed a little. Sigh.
Sunday, March 2, 2014
March 1
I guess I will continue this thing. It makes me feel like I am trying to move forward on my dating situation. Even if all I am really doing is beating my head against a wall...
First Note - A long shot - of course. :) She lives in CA - a 41 year old OKC woman - not high percentages - 58% Match 57% Friend 16% Enemy - but she looked at my profile - or at least OKC said she did - she didn't write - so that is not a good sign either - but what the heck, I need to start clearing out some of these open tabs! (See her response below)
Second Note - G&G - OKC - 69% Match 69% Friend 29% Enemy - 54 - No profile text and basically one picture. I looked at her. She looked at me. I decided to write just because I could.
Third Note - Match.com - 41 year old woman who wants to date her next door neighbor. I dropped her a nice line.
Not a new note - to a POF woman who sent me a note or two - but is obviously getting inundated and doesn't find me interesting enough to get to know me better. Doesn't hurt to send it...
Fourth Note - G&G - 46 year old POF Woman - she lives a little far away and seems a bit on the conservative side - I wrote her an ok note. Not my best effort by far.
Fifth Note - another G&G - POF 38 year old woman (hence the G&G) - Says she is a Free Thinker - but everything about her screams conservative...
Sixth Note - Match.com woman who is 49 and lives within driving distance (reasonably driving distance, I think - less than 500 miles...)
Seventh Note - Match.com woman who is 43 and a former rock star? Anyway, little hope to hear back since I am over her age range - though the rock star thing does encourage me a little that she might find my looks not as off-putting as some others apparently do...
Eighth Note - Match.com - 39 year old woman who "viewed" my profile - I liked a couple pictures a while back and didn't write because she only wanted someone up to 45 - but since she looked, I figured I might as well take the chance...
I don't often do this - but I just had to share - An OKC woman I wrote today got this message from me:
Great profile! Are you from CA originally? How is school going? I liked how you described feeling ageless. I feel that way most of the time, too.
I totally agree that the best relationships are one where people connect on all levels! Do you speak any foreign languages? Have you done much traveling?
I hope this finds you well and happy!
Augustus
She responded:
Good Morning Augustus,
Thank you for your message! I am not originally from Cali......My parents/family are from Italy and I was born in Argentina, so Race: Caucasian: Nationality: Argentinian Ethnicity: Italian.
I speak Castellano....or what we call Spanish. I have only been back to Argentina once, in 1987. I do plan on traveling a lot, soon.
How about you? Where are you originally from?
Followed by this:
You know what? Forget it dude! The only reason you asked where I am from.....is because you are a racist and are trying to weed out foreigners! Go to hell old man! Did you really think I was interested, just because I answered your message? ahahahahaha
AS IF !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow. Ok. Whatever. I wrote her back a note:
I thought you seemed like an interesting person. I asked where you were from because not everyone was born where they currently live.
I was born in geneva ny. I lived in the sf bay area for ten years. My ex wife was from mainland china. I have traveled to 30+ countries and am about as far from a racist as you are likely to find.
Your profile was intriguing. I actually like the picture of you without makeup a bit more than the other one.
Best of luck in your search!
Augustus
She wrote:
Hey racist man.....leave me alone, okay? Bye, bye!
I blocked her.
Oh my goodness, me racist? Ha! Whatever.
Moving on...Ok, I still think that is about the most bizarre thing ever...
First Note - A long shot - of course. :) She lives in CA - a 41 year old OKC woman - not high percentages - 58% Match 57% Friend 16% Enemy - but she looked at my profile - or at least OKC said she did - she didn't write - so that is not a good sign either - but what the heck, I need to start clearing out some of these open tabs! (See her response below)
Second Note - G&G - OKC - 69% Match 69% Friend 29% Enemy - 54 - No profile text and basically one picture. I looked at her. She looked at me. I decided to write just because I could.
Third Note - Match.com - 41 year old woman who wants to date her next door neighbor. I dropped her a nice line.
Not a new note - to a POF woman who sent me a note or two - but is obviously getting inundated and doesn't find me interesting enough to get to know me better. Doesn't hurt to send it...
Fourth Note - G&G - 46 year old POF Woman - she lives a little far away and seems a bit on the conservative side - I wrote her an ok note. Not my best effort by far.
Fifth Note - another G&G - POF 38 year old woman (hence the G&G) - Says she is a Free Thinker - but everything about her screams conservative...
Sixth Note - Match.com woman who is 49 and lives within driving distance (reasonably driving distance, I think - less than 500 miles...)
Seventh Note - Match.com woman who is 43 and a former rock star? Anyway, little hope to hear back since I am over her age range - though the rock star thing does encourage me a little that she might find my looks not as off-putting as some others apparently do...
Eighth Note - Match.com - 39 year old woman who "viewed" my profile - I liked a couple pictures a while back and didn't write because she only wanted someone up to 45 - but since she looked, I figured I might as well take the chance...
I don't often do this - but I just had to share - An OKC woman I wrote today got this message from me:
Great profile! Are you from CA originally? How is school going? I liked how you described feeling ageless. I feel that way most of the time, too.
I totally agree that the best relationships are one where people connect on all levels! Do you speak any foreign languages? Have you done much traveling?
I hope this finds you well and happy!
Augustus
She responded:
Good Morning Augustus,
Thank you for your message! I am not originally from Cali......My parents/family are from Italy and I was born in Argentina, so Race: Caucasian: Nationality: Argentinian Ethnicity: Italian.
I speak Castellano....or what we call Spanish. I have only been back to Argentina once, in 1987. I do plan on traveling a lot, soon.
How about you? Where are you originally from?
Followed by this:
You know what? Forget it dude! The only reason you asked where I am from.....is because you are a racist and are trying to weed out foreigners! Go to hell old man! Did you really think I was interested, just because I answered your message? ahahahahaha
AS IF !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow. Ok. Whatever. I wrote her back a note:
I thought you seemed like an interesting person. I asked where you were from because not everyone was born where they currently live.
I was born in geneva ny. I lived in the sf bay area for ten years. My ex wife was from mainland china. I have traveled to 30+ countries and am about as far from a racist as you are likely to find.
Your profile was intriguing. I actually like the picture of you without makeup a bit more than the other one.
Best of luck in your search!
Augustus
She wrote:
Hey racist man.....leave me alone, okay? Bye, bye!
I blocked her.
Oh my goodness, me racist? Ha! Whatever.
Moving on...Ok, I still think that is about the most bizarre thing ever...
Thursday, February 27, 2014
Feb 26
Starting off with a Match woman who is 41 and not far away, but only wants someone who is 44 - I could pass for 44 - in a dimly lit restaurant, as long as she wasn't looking at me...what does it matter, who I am fooling - the chances of her writing back with a positive "let's do this note" are about 1 in 100. No guts, hmm, what would one do if they had no guts. Digesting food would be difficult...
I think I need to whip off some notes - get some of these tabs closed.
Note the Second - before doing that, I closed four POF tabs for one reason or another - most of them just lived too far away for their comfort and honestly, they weren't all that appealing in the light of day. So, my second note is to a Match woman - 40 years old - I think I have written her before - but what the heck - match doesn't remember so I can't be sure - It was a G&G for me - she is a conservative politically, which means that she wants a conservative guy - into which category I could never, ever fall - except I do try to conserve electricity and water. Does that count?
Note the Third - probably also G&G for me as she wants someone who lives within 20 miles - but at least I am (for a couple more months) in her age range! 50 year old woman who is willing to go up to 52! Wow, living outside the box!! Not a great note - truly not all the motivated to write...
Note the Fourth - Ok, couldn't bring myself to write any more notes today. I just closed all the tabs. Sigh.
Back to Note the Fourth - An OKC person who was way too young - 36 - right on the bottom of my possible age lower limit - Ok, not really, according to half plus seven, 33 is the lower limit - anyway - she lives not too far away and her profile was good. And our percentages - 91% Match 83% Friend 0% Enemy - well, I don't think I have ever seen 0% enemy before!
Note the Fifth - POF - 48 year old woman living around 40 miles away - seems cool so I sent her a decent note. Ok, all of my notes are decent, this one had its cute moments...(well, she responded - mainly in order to raise the percentage of people who responded - how sweet - but it seems it was only for that reason. Moving on...)
I think I need to whip off some notes - get some of these tabs closed.
Note the Second - before doing that, I closed four POF tabs for one reason or another - most of them just lived too far away for their comfort and honestly, they weren't all that appealing in the light of day. So, my second note is to a Match woman - 40 years old - I think I have written her before - but what the heck - match doesn't remember so I can't be sure - It was a G&G for me - she is a conservative politically, which means that she wants a conservative guy - into which category I could never, ever fall - except I do try to conserve electricity and water. Does that count?
Note the Third - probably also G&G for me as she wants someone who lives within 20 miles - but at least I am (for a couple more months) in her age range! 50 year old woman who is willing to go up to 52! Wow, living outside the box!! Not a great note - truly not all the motivated to write...
Note the Fourth - Ok, couldn't bring myself to write any more notes today. I just closed all the tabs. Sigh.
Back to Note the Fourth - An OKC person who was way too young - 36 - right on the bottom of my possible age lower limit - Ok, not really, according to half plus seven, 33 is the lower limit - anyway - she lives not too far away and her profile was good. And our percentages - 91% Match 83% Friend 0% Enemy - well, I don't think I have ever seen 0% enemy before!
Note the Fifth - POF - 48 year old woman living around 40 miles away - seems cool so I sent her a decent note. Ok, all of my notes are decent, this one had its cute moments...(well, she responded - mainly in order to raise the percentage of people who responded - how sweet - but it seems it was only for that reason. Moving on...)
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
Feb 24
Again, lots of tabs open. Unfortunately most of them will be for Grins and Giggles - since I don't, generally, meet their age requirement. Sigh.
Note Uno - Yes, I know the number One in Spanish. Aren't I the polyglot?! Written to a POF woman, 51 who lives in Buffalo - I am guessing this was G&G because she wants someone who can do stuff at the drop of a hat. With me, it would take a bit more planning than that. Not a great first letter, but it got the job done (in that it was written, not that it led to a response or anything...)
Note Dos - Aha! See what I did there? Anyway, another G&G to a 45 year old woman in another state - she had a little in her profile, but not much to go on - so my letter wasn't spectacular...
I am just feeling a little burned out - which is understandable with all the messages I have sent and the few contacts I have made.
Note Tres - Yup, I am on a Spanish number roll - Another G&G to another 45 year old woman also in another state - the same state as the previous one - no, they aren't the same person...this letter had a little more oomph to it - still not awesome, but it will suffice.
Three was all I could manage. The lack of feedback has been underwhelming.
Note Uno - Yes, I know the number One in Spanish. Aren't I the polyglot?! Written to a POF woman, 51 who lives in Buffalo - I am guessing this was G&G because she wants someone who can do stuff at the drop of a hat. With me, it would take a bit more planning than that. Not a great first letter, but it got the job done (in that it was written, not that it led to a response or anything...)
Note Dos - Aha! See what I did there? Anyway, another G&G to a 45 year old woman in another state - she had a little in her profile, but not much to go on - so my letter wasn't spectacular...
I am just feeling a little burned out - which is understandable with all the messages I have sent and the few contacts I have made.
Note Tres - Yup, I am on a Spanish number roll - Another G&G to another 45 year old woman also in another state - the same state as the previous one - no, they aren't the same person...this letter had a little more oomph to it - still not awesome, but it will suffice.
Three was all I could manage. The lack of feedback has been underwhelming.
Thursday, February 20, 2014
Feb 19
Wow, I have a lot of open tabs. Will I or won't I write to the 15 people or will I whittle away at them as I realize that "correspondence is futile." (Yes, I have been binge watching Star Trek, TNG. Sigh.)
What I did do is send a message to a woman who has been weighing on my mind a bit. I first wrote her on the 17th and although she looked at my profile, a couple of times, she didn't write. Maybe she doesn't like to initiate correspondence. Maybe she is swamped with all of the letters she has been getting. Maybe I really, really seemed icky, gross and disgusting and she couldn't bear the thought of communicating with me. Or maybe, she picked up some vibe from my profile that warned her off. Or maybe one of 8 gazillion reasons. Whatever. Really, what she thinks is none of my business. (This thought, by the way, is from one of the interpersonal training workshops that I have attended over the years. And it is a powerful one. The "take-away" from it is that what other people think or believe or feel really has nothing to do with me. It is all their stuff. And as such (it being their stuff and nor really related to me) is none of my business.) But I drafted a decent second note - even got a second opinion on it, and finally sent it off today. Will I hear back? I hope so. Do I think I will hear back? Nope. Not pessimism - realism. Anyone who is reading this (is anyone reading this?) will have noticed that I get about 1 in ten responses. So the odds are just plain bad that she will respond. Moving on.
I guess part of the issue is just how serious someone is when they say they are willing to just make new friends even if it doesn't lead to a relationship. Generally I have found this to be untrue. Or not untrue exactly, but not something that ever happens. I do my best to keep a correspondence going - or a friendship even. But both a correspondence and a friendship take certain levels of effort and consistency that seems difficult to sustain.
Ok, I would like to write a few messages before going on with other things - I think I will start with the ones that have been "parked" in tabs the longest and move to the newer found ones.
First Note - OKC Woman - 37 years old - 84% Match, 79% Friend, 4% Enemy - that's pretty good, right?! She does say she is bisexual and last time I checked I was one of the two genders. So far, so good. She caps her age limit at 50 but I am well with her distance parameter - maybe. Near Me to one person means 50 yards, to another means 100 miles. Sigh. Anyway, honestly, I think she is looking for a bunch of friends more than she is specifically looking for a relationship at this point. So near me, probably means more like the 50 yards than the hours drive away that I am. Hmm, to write or not to write. Well, I will at least drop her a line. I know I like to get nice emails even if it doesn't lead to a relationship or anything...
Second Note - Match woman - 47 - she had no distance limit mentioned, so I wrote - she hasn't been online in a while - so I don't think that is ever a good sign for getting a response - and she likes some things that might indicate less than optimal matchiness. I just sent her a pleasant note - nothing too fancy.
Third note - Match woman - 53 - not too far away - though her top age limit is 50 - interesting, that. Not much to her profile. And she says she is trying to quit smoking. Sigh. Some survey said that only 20 percent of the population smokes. I would think that is inaccurate from my observations. I think that only 20 percent admit to smoking...anyway, I wrote her a short, not too exciting note. Ice breaker is about it.
You know, I don't know how I would feel if the woman I was actually attracted the most to wrote back. Would I immediately get buyer's remorse? Or would I be thrilled? And if it all came down to, in Joni Mitchell's words "smoking ash" after a bit of communication, would I be happier or sadder in my life? Or in the greater scope of things, does any of it really matter? Anyway...Well, she did write back with a nice letter saying I was too interesting for the point in her life at which she finds herself. Her loss. Next. (Also from an interpersonal communication class I took - a very helpful thing indeed.)
Fourth note - OKC woman - 46 years old - in a town nearby - 93% Match - 87% Friend and 7% Enemy - come on - it doesn't get much better than that. Then again, maybe she only answered 10 questions, so the sample isn't that large...I sent her a decent first note. (She responded...)(A couple of notes and then nothing...)
I decided not to write one of the woman I had tabbed. Moving forward...
And another - because, well, I think she is too country and I am too rock and roll - er urban.
And another not being written to - the match percentages aren't that high and though she has an interesting profile, I just am not feeling it. Perhaps it is because of the pleasant rejection I just received, or maybe I am just not in the mood...
Fifth note - OKC woman who showed up in my quiver - OKC puts 3 people they think are really good matches into a special tab called a quiver. I have found that most of the time, I am not all that thrilled by my quiver-ites. Every once in a while there is a decent one, though. This one was 51 and lives in the big apple - so too far, really. She had a lovely profile and seemed like a person it would be nice to get to know. At the end of her profile, though, she said she would not respond to anyone who had not been married and divorced or who had not had children. I sent her a note anyway, not expecting a reply. We will call this one G&G.
Sixth note - though this is really a second note to someone who didn't respond to my first nice note. Yes, this note was nice too. I don't generally write mean notes - though I am sometimes tempted to. Expectations - not so high, despite high ratings - OKC woman - 47 - not too far - 94% match - 81% Friend and 10% enemy - and she won't even bother to write back, I bet. Yup, working out my frustrations through blogging about them. Yippee!
Ok, going to skip the next one too - I just think she looks too somber. Looks can be deceiving of course, but still...
Seventh Note - POF - 45 year old living not too far away - one word profile text which is a little bit of a warning - meaning that she isn't all that invested in the process. So I doubt I will hear from her.
Eighth Note - Match.com - 49 year old lives not a long way off - I was excited by her profile and pictures and got a little less so after I sent the message. She is also looking for someone secure financially - not me - and from some things in her profile, she is not as free spirited as I thought she was. Oh well. (Wrote a not very clear response note - I got the sense that she wasn't interested in getting to know me better, but I wrote back for clarification)
Just exed another. She looked at my profile and had an empty profile herself. I was tempted, butI just wasn't up for it.
I wrote a second note to a match woman. Match said she looked at my profile again - though I don't know that that is necessarily true. So just a brief note to say I was still interested. Not really holding out much hope, though...
What I did do is send a message to a woman who has been weighing on my mind a bit. I first wrote her on the 17th and although she looked at my profile, a couple of times, she didn't write. Maybe she doesn't like to initiate correspondence. Maybe she is swamped with all of the letters she has been getting. Maybe I really, really seemed icky, gross and disgusting and she couldn't bear the thought of communicating with me. Or maybe, she picked up some vibe from my profile that warned her off. Or maybe one of 8 gazillion reasons. Whatever. Really, what she thinks is none of my business. (This thought, by the way, is from one of the interpersonal training workshops that I have attended over the years. And it is a powerful one. The "take-away" from it is that what other people think or believe or feel really has nothing to do with me. It is all their stuff. And as such (it being their stuff and nor really related to me) is none of my business.) But I drafted a decent second note - even got a second opinion on it, and finally sent it off today. Will I hear back? I hope so. Do I think I will hear back? Nope. Not pessimism - realism. Anyone who is reading this (is anyone reading this?) will have noticed that I get about 1 in ten responses. So the odds are just plain bad that she will respond. Moving on.
I guess part of the issue is just how serious someone is when they say they are willing to just make new friends even if it doesn't lead to a relationship. Generally I have found this to be untrue. Or not untrue exactly, but not something that ever happens. I do my best to keep a correspondence going - or a friendship even. But both a correspondence and a friendship take certain levels of effort and consistency that seems difficult to sustain.
Ok, I would like to write a few messages before going on with other things - I think I will start with the ones that have been "parked" in tabs the longest and move to the newer found ones.
First Note - OKC Woman - 37 years old - 84% Match, 79% Friend, 4% Enemy - that's pretty good, right?! She does say she is bisexual and last time I checked I was one of the two genders. So far, so good. She caps her age limit at 50 but I am well with her distance parameter - maybe. Near Me to one person means 50 yards, to another means 100 miles. Sigh. Anyway, honestly, I think she is looking for a bunch of friends more than she is specifically looking for a relationship at this point. So near me, probably means more like the 50 yards than the hours drive away that I am. Hmm, to write or not to write. Well, I will at least drop her a line. I know I like to get nice emails even if it doesn't lead to a relationship or anything...
Second Note - Match woman - 47 - she had no distance limit mentioned, so I wrote - she hasn't been online in a while - so I don't think that is ever a good sign for getting a response - and she likes some things that might indicate less than optimal matchiness. I just sent her a pleasant note - nothing too fancy.
Third note - Match woman - 53 - not too far away - though her top age limit is 50 - interesting, that. Not much to her profile. And she says she is trying to quit smoking. Sigh. Some survey said that only 20 percent of the population smokes. I would think that is inaccurate from my observations. I think that only 20 percent admit to smoking...anyway, I wrote her a short, not too exciting note. Ice breaker is about it.
You know, I don't know how I would feel if the woman I was actually attracted the most to wrote back. Would I immediately get buyer's remorse? Or would I be thrilled? And if it all came down to, in Joni Mitchell's words "smoking ash" after a bit of communication, would I be happier or sadder in my life? Or in the greater scope of things, does any of it really matter? Anyway...Well, she did write back with a nice letter saying I was too interesting for the point in her life at which she finds herself. Her loss. Next. (Also from an interpersonal communication class I took - a very helpful thing indeed.)
Fourth note - OKC woman - 46 years old - in a town nearby - 93% Match - 87% Friend and 7% Enemy - come on - it doesn't get much better than that. Then again, maybe she only answered 10 questions, so the sample isn't that large...I sent her a decent first note. (She responded...)(A couple of notes and then nothing...)
I decided not to write one of the woman I had tabbed. Moving forward...
And another - because, well, I think she is too country and I am too rock and roll - er urban.
And another not being written to - the match percentages aren't that high and though she has an interesting profile, I just am not feeling it. Perhaps it is because of the pleasant rejection I just received, or maybe I am just not in the mood...
Fifth note - OKC woman who showed up in my quiver - OKC puts 3 people they think are really good matches into a special tab called a quiver. I have found that most of the time, I am not all that thrilled by my quiver-ites. Every once in a while there is a decent one, though. This one was 51 and lives in the big apple - so too far, really. She had a lovely profile and seemed like a person it would be nice to get to know. At the end of her profile, though, she said she would not respond to anyone who had not been married and divorced or who had not had children. I sent her a note anyway, not expecting a reply. We will call this one G&G.
Sixth note - though this is really a second note to someone who didn't respond to my first nice note. Yes, this note was nice too. I don't generally write mean notes - though I am sometimes tempted to. Expectations - not so high, despite high ratings - OKC woman - 47 - not too far - 94% match - 81% Friend and 10% enemy - and she won't even bother to write back, I bet. Yup, working out my frustrations through blogging about them. Yippee!
Ok, going to skip the next one too - I just think she looks too somber. Looks can be deceiving of course, but still...
Seventh Note - POF - 45 year old living not too far away - one word profile text which is a little bit of a warning - meaning that she isn't all that invested in the process. So I doubt I will hear from her.
Eighth Note - Match.com - 49 year old lives not a long way off - I was excited by her profile and pictures and got a little less so after I sent the message. She is also looking for someone secure financially - not me - and from some things in her profile, she is not as free spirited as I thought she was. Oh well. (Wrote a not very clear response note - I got the sense that she wasn't interested in getting to know me better, but I wrote back for clarification)
Just exed another. She looked at my profile and had an empty profile herself. I was tempted, butI just wasn't up for it.
I wrote a second note to a match woman. Match said she looked at my profile again - though I don't know that that is necessarily true. So just a brief note to say I was still interested. Not really holding out much hope, though...
Wednesday, February 19, 2014
Feb 18
I have 6 tabs full of people waiting to be written notes. Whether or not I will end up writing them is anyone's guess. My mind is sort of full of a couple of other people just now. We shall see.
First note for G&G - Match woman who is 52 - lives not so far away - but I could tell from her profile, we just don't have anything in common - at all. She has oodles of pictures posted and I just admired her energy. So I wrote.
Second note - probably for G&G as well - Match woman who is 43 - her age limit is up to 60, though! And I live within her distance circle. She says she wants a "down-to-earth" guy - which makes me think she is probably too conservative to be interested in the likes of me. Still, I am in a typing mood (while I wait 24 hours to re-write one who didn't respond last night).
Third note - Match woman - 53 - probably the one I am most interested in so far of the three I have written today. She had a very clear profile - paragraphs and everything - gave me a good feeling. One red flag that suggests she might not (probably won't) write back - wanting a guy who smells good (I tried wearing cologne for a week back in college and I couldn't handle it!).
TDP - Too damn pretty. Just a thought I had and I do tend to get my thoughts out and down as often as possible. Even if posterity doesn't care, I at least got it out of my brain. Yay! Anyway, some people are just TDP. Must suck to be them...
First note for G&G - Match woman who is 52 - lives not so far away - but I could tell from her profile, we just don't have anything in common - at all. She has oodles of pictures posted and I just admired her energy. So I wrote.
Second note - probably for G&G as well - Match woman who is 43 - her age limit is up to 60, though! And I live within her distance circle. She says she wants a "down-to-earth" guy - which makes me think she is probably too conservative to be interested in the likes of me. Still, I am in a typing mood (while I wait 24 hours to re-write one who didn't respond last night).
Third note - Match woman - 53 - probably the one I am most interested in so far of the three I have written today. She had a very clear profile - paragraphs and everything - gave me a good feeling. One red flag that suggests she might not (probably won't) write back - wanting a guy who smells good (I tried wearing cologne for a week back in college and I couldn't handle it!).
TDP - Too damn pretty. Just a thought I had and I do tend to get my thoughts out and down as often as possible. Even if posterity doesn't care, I at least got it out of my brain. Yay! Anyway, some people are just TDP. Must suck to be them...
Monday, February 17, 2014
Feb 16
First Note - written to a person with out a picture posted - always a bit of a red-flag - are they particularly shy? Privacy conscious? Two headed? I am always hoping for the last...Anyway, she is 50, on OKC (73% Match, 80% Friend, 17% Enemy) and lives a little far away, but not too far for our dauntless letter writer to drop her a line! (She wrote back already.)
Second Note - I wrote this woman last summer and never heard back - she apparently stopped by my profile recently. She didn't respond to my first message back then and I don't think she will reply to my message this time. But, heck, I have fingers, I shall type. Oh, 47, OKC ( 64% match, 70% friend, 24% enemy and I rated her profile 4 stars (I have never rated anyone's profile 5 stars - though there was one woman I was sorely tempted to give five stars - maybe is she had written back...but I digress) and lives relatively close. And from her profile sounds like someone I would be happy to meet. I went back to check out her %'s and saw the first note I sent back in June. Remarkably similar (which is why I am remarking on it, I guess) to my previous note. Which got no reply. Honestly, I was a little smitten by her and her profile and was more than usually minorly miffed when I didn't hear back. Whatever, I have no control over other people's choices (unless they give it to me...)
Third Note - OKC - 41 (Match 51%, friend 61%, Enemy 30%) written for G&G mostly. I thought her profile had a sense of humor and kept me reading, which is a good thing. She lives not a long way off - I am over her age range (up to 48) - all in all, not expecting a response of "sure, let's get to know each other). My guess, a look at my profile (maybe) and no message at all.
There's another thing that I like about OKC. It keeps track of how many times someone responds (whether this is just the initial response, or what, I don't know - it is their set of algorithms) and then has a little notation about "responds selectively" or "responds often" (boy do I feel a teeny kick in the gonads when someone who responds often doesn't even bother to respond...)
Second Note - I wrote this woman last summer and never heard back - she apparently stopped by my profile recently. She didn't respond to my first message back then and I don't think she will reply to my message this time. But, heck, I have fingers, I shall type. Oh, 47, OKC ( 64% match, 70% friend, 24% enemy and I rated her profile 4 stars (I have never rated anyone's profile 5 stars - though there was one woman I was sorely tempted to give five stars - maybe is she had written back...but I digress) and lives relatively close. And from her profile sounds like someone I would be happy to meet. I went back to check out her %'s and saw the first note I sent back in June. Remarkably similar (which is why I am remarking on it, I guess) to my previous note. Which got no reply. Honestly, I was a little smitten by her and her profile and was more than usually minorly miffed when I didn't hear back. Whatever, I have no control over other people's choices (unless they give it to me...)
Third Note - OKC - 41 (Match 51%, friend 61%, Enemy 30%) written for G&G mostly. I thought her profile had a sense of humor and kept me reading, which is a good thing. She lives not a long way off - I am over her age range (up to 48) - all in all, not expecting a response of "sure, let's get to know each other). My guess, a look at my profile (maybe) and no message at all.
There's another thing that I like about OKC. It keeps track of how many times someone responds (whether this is just the initial response, or what, I don't know - it is their set of algorithms) and then has a little notation about "responds selectively" or "responds often" (boy do I feel a teeny kick in the gonads when someone who responds often doesn't even bother to respond...)
Friday, February 14, 2014
Feb 13
One of the Match women wrote back last night. She wrote a lovely long message but didn't indicate, to me at least, if she wanted to continue communication or not. She asked no real questions (though one sentence ended in a question mark) and didn't say anything overt about looking forward to getting to know me. Ah well, everyone communicates differently. All I can do is continue onward. So I sent her a note in return. We shall see what happens.
It is early-ish in the morning - time to write a few notes before getting the rest of my day started. I am starting on my "likes" on match.
First note - 39 year old match woman who wants a guy up to 45 (oops) but the distance seems ok. Actually, upon reviewing her profile more, I don't think I will actually write to her.
First note - 45 year old match woman who lives within a mutually acceptable travel distance. I am a smidge older than her desired age range allows, but not horrendously...Not much in her profile but enough to make it clear that she isn't illiterate. Yay for literacy! She says her politics are "middle of the road." Is that code for basically conservative? If so, I doubt I will hear from her. Not my best effort, but not too shoddy either.
I find that I cannot "unlike" someone or their picture. What is that about? Nor can I delete them from my likes on Match.
Second note - 40 year old match woman (only interested up to 48 but she is willing to look further afield than many (100 miles) and she is worth a note. Heck, really, anyone is worth a note but I think you know what I mean...ok, that one was pretty good. I had a mini-inspiration and wrote - I have taken the first step - will you take the second? Ok, seriously, I doubt I will hear from her but I had fun with the note!
Third Note - 44 year old OKC woman who is definitely not "near me" but in whose age range I fit. Her bottom age range is 27, though...following the age in half plus seven rule of thumb, 29 would be ok - better than the woman who put 18 as her bottom age! Eeek! Not that I would go running if a real 18 year old wrote me - but I wouldn't hold out any hopes for a real, meaningful relationship with someone so young. And that is what I am looking for, aren't I? Anyway...not an awesome note but pretty darn good, if I must say so myself. A couple of question marks about her, but aren't there always about anyone anyways? (Wow, that is a lot of a's!)
I just had a little realization (which I might have had before - who knows?) that a crush is really half of "chemistry." Chemistry occurs when both people have a crush on each other at the same time...
Fourth Note - G&G - 43 year old woman looking for someone who is at most 44 and within 50 miles - which I am not - hence the G&G. She just appealed, despite some red flags (like the two above) and that she is currently separated - this can mean so many things. But she says she is "very liberal" so a little bit of hope leaps in my heart...I was going to ask her about some of the things in her profile, but decided it could have easily been taken as an attack instead of the lighthearted curiosity that I was feeling. My guess, I won't hear back.
It is early-ish in the morning - time to write a few notes before getting the rest of my day started. I am starting on my "likes" on match.
First note - 45 year old match woman who lives within a mutually acceptable travel distance. I am a smidge older than her desired age range allows, but not horrendously...Not much in her profile but enough to make it clear that she isn't illiterate. Yay for literacy! She says her politics are "middle of the road." Is that code for basically conservative? If so, I doubt I will hear from her. Not my best effort, but not too shoddy either.
I find that I cannot "unlike" someone or their picture. What is that about? Nor can I delete them from my likes on Match.
Second note - 40 year old match woman (only interested up to 48 but she is willing to look further afield than many (100 miles) and she is worth a note. Heck, really, anyone is worth a note but I think you know what I mean...ok, that one was pretty good. I had a mini-inspiration and wrote - I have taken the first step - will you take the second? Ok, seriously, I doubt I will hear from her but I had fun with the note!
Third Note - 44 year old OKC woman who is definitely not "near me" but in whose age range I fit. Her bottom age range is 27, though...following the age in half plus seven rule of thumb, 29 would be ok - better than the woman who put 18 as her bottom age! Eeek! Not that I would go running if a real 18 year old wrote me - but I wouldn't hold out any hopes for a real, meaningful relationship with someone so young. And that is what I am looking for, aren't I? Anyway...not an awesome note but pretty darn good, if I must say so myself. A couple of question marks about her, but aren't there always about anyone anyways? (Wow, that is a lot of a's!)
I just had a little realization (which I might have had before - who knows?) that a crush is really half of "chemistry." Chemistry occurs when both people have a crush on each other at the same time...
Fourth Note - G&G - 43 year old woman looking for someone who is at most 44 and within 50 miles - which I am not - hence the G&G. She just appealed, despite some red flags (like the two above) and that she is currently separated - this can mean so many things. But she says she is "very liberal" so a little bit of hope leaps in my heart...I was going to ask her about some of the things in her profile, but decided it could have easily been taken as an attack instead of the lighthearted curiosity that I was feeling. My guess, I won't hear back.
Friday, February 7, 2014
Feb 6
First thing I did was to write back to a couple of people. For some reason I am awake at 5 in the morning, so I decided to get some writing done. Yay! I think I will also write to a few people on match.com and maybe one on OKC.
By the way, besides these daily notes on notes and daily dating occurrences, I hope to find the time and mental energy to write posts on other aspects of relationships. I have a few posts started and hope to have time next week to flesh them out and post them.
First note - to a woman on OKC. Admittedly, we are not a great match - 56% match, 60% friend and, eeek - 35% enemey! OKC even says that we have issues. She is 42 and lives less than 50 miles away. Why, you ask, am I writing her? G&G. And because her favorite movie is The Princess Bride - as is mine!
Second note - match.com woman - 48 - less than 30 miles away - her desired age range tops out at 50, her profile is not pithy - but she seems like someone who I might like to know better.
Third note - match.com woman - 37 years old - 57 miles away (Ok, I don't really know the exact mileage for any of these people - they don't give out street addresses - which is probably wise) - her age range tops out at 48 (which is pretty reasonable - so I am definitely pushing the envelope a bit) and she would like someone who lives within 30 miles. I guess she lives in a place with a high population density, unlike here in Geneva, NY. I liked her smile.
Maybe (if anyone is out there reading this)(then again, mostly I am doing this for my own amusement and edification) you are wondering why I write so many emails. It is partly a math thing - or rather a statistical thing. Or maybe it is just a gut thing - the scattergun approach. Throwing lots of me out there and hoping that something sticks. Also, check out my post on Ups and Downs. Interaction is one thing I am seeking. Of most any (healthy) kind.
Fourth note - match.com - cool name, 37, not horrendously far away - yet again I am out of her age range but hope springs eternal. Anyway, we really don't have that much in common - but she did mention she liked to play pool. I would love to date or be in a relationship with someone who liked to play pool. So I asked her if there were any good pool places near her. Doubt I will hear.
Fifth Note - see, I am jonesing for communication here - 43 - within walking distance (ok, not really - just trying to think of different distance descriptors) - I don't know what it was about her - perhaps her smile in her profile picture - or a couple of things she said in her profile text, but I thought, why not write. Her top age is 50, though.
I just had an epiphany-let - why I like video/computer games (or games in general). It is because of the interaction. Not necessarily the challenge, the winning or losing, but the give and take that happens, sometimes with another person, sometimes just with a well written AI. Hmm.
By the way, besides these daily notes on notes and daily dating occurrences, I hope to find the time and mental energy to write posts on other aspects of relationships. I have a few posts started and hope to have time next week to flesh them out and post them.
First note - to a woman on OKC. Admittedly, we are not a great match - 56% match, 60% friend and, eeek - 35% enemey! OKC even says that we have issues. She is 42 and lives less than 50 miles away. Why, you ask, am I writing her? G&G. And because her favorite movie is The Princess Bride - as is mine!
Second note - match.com woman - 48 - less than 30 miles away - her desired age range tops out at 50, her profile is not pithy - but she seems like someone who I might like to know better.
Third note - match.com woman - 37 years old - 57 miles away (Ok, I don't really know the exact mileage for any of these people - they don't give out street addresses - which is probably wise) - her age range tops out at 48 (which is pretty reasonable - so I am definitely pushing the envelope a bit) and she would like someone who lives within 30 miles. I guess she lives in a place with a high population density, unlike here in Geneva, NY. I liked her smile.
Maybe (if anyone is out there reading this)(then again, mostly I am doing this for my own amusement and edification) you are wondering why I write so many emails. It is partly a math thing - or rather a statistical thing. Or maybe it is just a gut thing - the scattergun approach. Throwing lots of me out there and hoping that something sticks. Also, check out my post on Ups and Downs. Interaction is one thing I am seeking. Of most any (healthy) kind.
Fourth note - match.com - cool name, 37, not horrendously far away - yet again I am out of her age range but hope springs eternal. Anyway, we really don't have that much in common - but she did mention she liked to play pool. I would love to date or be in a relationship with someone who liked to play pool. So I asked her if there were any good pool places near her. Doubt I will hear.
Fifth Note - see, I am jonesing for communication here - 43 - within walking distance (ok, not really - just trying to think of different distance descriptors) - I don't know what it was about her - perhaps her smile in her profile picture - or a couple of things she said in her profile text, but I thought, why not write. Her top age is 50, though.
I just had an epiphany-let - why I like video/computer games (or games in general). It is because of the interaction. Not necessarily the challenge, the winning or losing, but the give and take that happens, sometimes with another person, sometimes just with a well written AI. Hmm.
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